I changed my mind

What's on my mind - 15 Sept 2024

Hello Lovelies,

How is everyone doing? This week, I’ve socialized more than I have in the past nine months—no kidding! I saw my entire extended family as my family hosted our annual Ganesh lunch, which felt like half of Nagpur showed up. It was really nice, aside from the inevitable, "When are you getting married?"

I’ve realized that I share my opinions here every week on various random topics without hesitation. While I enjoy doing that, it comes with a cost—living up to those opinions and not sounding like a hypocrite. At one of these events, I ate a lot of jalebis, and one of the readers said, “I thought you were off sugar?” Well, yes, I was off sugar for the first 1.5 months of 2024, but I’m back to enjoying it after a little cleanse. My point is, not everything is set in stone; I can break my own rules sometimes, just for fun.

I’m always hesitant to change my mind about things because I never want to seem hypocritical, naive, or, as some might say, just a "pretty girl" with no depth. Having strong principles is important, but so is allowing yourself the freedom to change your mind. But how can we rely on someone if they constantly change their mind? Good question. How do we know if it’s too soon or too late to change our minds?

It might come off as inconsistent—one day saying one thing, the next saying something else. So, how do we really know a person? In my opinion, the key lies in intent. Maybe I liked X for a while, but now I prefer Y for reasons that make sense to me. As long as these changes align with your core values, it’s justified.

Changing your mind about things that aren’t crucial—like fashion or food preferences—is perfectly fine, and honestly, no one cares that much. For example, I now enjoy foods I used to hate as a kid, like capsicum, brinjals, and even rice!

Reframing your thoughts can also make a big difference. When I say, "With what I’ve learned, I think..." it leaves space for growth. Knowing when to be vulnerable is a great skill, in my opinion. But it’s also important to examine where your vulnerability is coming from—if it stems from jealousy, envy, or something negative, that’s an area for growth. If it comes from a place of values, self-improvement, or simply a lack of knowledge, that’s part of the process.

But for all this to happen, we need to know our core values, and that’s a lot of work. I’m still figuring mine out! Sharing them would be TMI for now, but maybe one day.

Sending Hugs.

So don’t be too stubborn with your opinions, my friends. We’re all constantly evolving.

See you next week!